Marriage compliance check it a myth or a boon?

Have you tried a simple android application “Nakshatra Porutham” which instantly displays compliance check details of a prospective bride and a groom – a first step to be processed in an arranged marriage?

In most of the households in southern part of India, arranged marriages are still happening. The first step on an arranged marriage is to check the compliance between the prospective bride and the bridegroom, beyond photo exchange, family background details exchange etc. ‘Janma nakshatram’ (Birth Star) plays a major role in checking such compliance.

welcome3editFrom ancient times it has become a ceremony to consult an astrologer, get his blessings to proceed with the marriage. There are many compliance factors which is expected to be matching between the bride and the bride groom. If the important factors like ‘Rajju’ or ‘Yoni’ are not matching, many elders reject the alliance stating there is ‘No proptham’ meaning its not conducive to proceed and to check with another prospect. More details here.

Astrologers normally provide this by making lots of calculations by matching the stars derived from the date of birth, time of birth of the bride and the groom. For those who does not know their birth star can generate from online web pages also. In our modern age there are people who still, strictly follow such rules when it comes to match making. For such kind of people this application will be a boon, which is built to emit the compliance results in a fraction of second 🙂


Hear your conscious not your mind!

Do we all have the responsibility to leave our healthier footprints to the next generation in this society?

I read somewhere, hear your conscious, not your mind! If we do so, we could create a healthier society with a nice atmosphere.

Do you agree?

Mind thinks intellectually and only about you. Mind can do only inward thinking. Only our conscious overrides mind and think about others around leading to an attitude towards helping others. It’s a practice and can be developed as a habit.

When it rains hard, and all shops are closed, if a neighbour asks for a cup of milk for their kid, have you observed your mind by then? Your mind will immediately respond  with an inner voice, ‘hey, you might need this for the evening’. At the same time conscious would say ‘hey, it’s for a kid. You will not die, if you don’t drink a cup of milk in the evening’, and end up in sharing the milk to a kid as a tiny-winy help.

You are at a bank or some similar kind of public office. You are filling up a form. Someone is nearing to your personal space and asks you, if you could spare your pen for a while. Have you observed? Your mind will say, ‘what if this stranger takes away my pen?”. At the same time conscious would wake up and say, ‘hey, it’s just a pen. What am I going to lose if he takes it away” and end up in sharing the pen as a small help.


You are on a super market billing counter. The person in front of you is having some problem to get his billing cleared due to a small penny change. Have you observed? Your conscious would say, “why don’t you give that small change and clear the billing counter as well help the person in front of you? At the same time your mind would say, “why should I care about other people’s problem ?” At this moment if conscious overrides, the billing counter would clear soon and a cool environment will be created around.

We could write n number of situations like this. If we all listen to our consciousness, and think about others for a fraction of second in little things, human society will be healthier than now with a pleasant atmosphere. We could leave great footprints to this world when we leave it to the next generation!

Making business out of motivation !

Many businesses mint money through the motivation factors of human life. They use the key factors of human life such as laziness, a carrot for doing something or some kind of common motivation facts initiated through some medical ailments. They invest on these factors and it is very much amusing to see their growth. Imagine, what if no one is motivated to jog or walk in the morning. No one is feeling lazy or no one is thronging for some new clothing, shoes and gadgets, what will happen to these multi billion businesses.


A normal 20-30 minutes walk and few minimum stretching exercise is enough for a human to start their day and have an active day through out. They start doing it with a new year resolution in January and within a week their mind throngs for something. They go for shopping, browse through e-commerce websites such as Amazon, FlipKart and buy/order some running shorts, shoes based on their economical strength companies like Nike, Adidas flourish and sustain in the market.

FitbitI was thinking, why not human live a simple life with a normal shoes, and normal attire for going for workout?

Why do they invest on so much on shoes, jogging suits. Modern electronic gadgets like Fitbit, MiBand also join this bandwagon these days. If one does not use a Fitbit, its like a crime, its seen among people. Apart from clothing, shoes the music industries also flourishes and mints money using the work out regime of people. It has become inevitable for people to possess minimum a shoe, jogging suit , electronic wear and a music accessory.


People need some kind of self-motivation things to do anything in life. Laziness is one factor which triggers many to get motivated. If one understands that this factor never fades in human life, these businesses will sustain and flourish. Parents motivate children buying new clothes, electronic gadgets to make them active and do workouts. Spouses gift each other with Fitbits to have a healthy life. Sons and daughters motivate their parents by buying comfortable shoes and music accessories advising them to keep thier glucose level intact. This goes on and on.

Yes. Investing on ‘Lazyness’ is the secret behind success of many businesses across the world.  Am I right?



Are we ready to “learn to unlearn” for a quality life?

Have you ever thought what kind of quality life you are leading to? One of my colleague asked me once. We discussed it over a cup of green tea.

For many years, mankind is improving its quality of life but with a price. Many people started to belive, the more you spend the more quality you achieve in your life. Many equated quality with luxury.

The naked truth is ‘quality’ is not related with luxury. Luxury is a style of life, if one wants to live with the money he spent on various newer things released in the market by the business people whose only aim is to make money. Life’s quality does not depend on luxury. Am I complicating to make you understand?

Just think of a man with his intelligence, has earned more and got a nice luxurious apartment in a plush locality and has everything in the house positioned with great care and maintained by servants for every category, which the house holds. End of the day when this man lies down in the bed and think of his self, he might have got great stress, developed with anxiety leading to depression just to achieve this luxury and success in his life. Due to the developed stress, this man’s body would have developed all kinds of ailments without having time to take care of himself, he would have already crossed his crucial age to enjoy his life. The earned money will be of no use, if not able to use at the right age.

So do you agree, in the search of luxury people lose the quality in their life. Visit to the doctors increases, but the man is so used to go in the search of luxury, he has no time to accept what the doctors say and follow. He overrides the advises thinking nothing will happen to him. He misses to realize the truth and fact of life when the life shows to him at many occasions. He misses the bus and falls into the medical attention which becomes sometimes impossible.


You might ask me, what am I trying to say and what is my point?

My point is, while running to create luxury in one’s life, man should know how to feed his mind, body and soul. He should know what are the required food for the mind, body and soul and understand not only the money he generated or the luxury can feed them. The money and the luxury which he created using the money might bring self-satisfaction but not the real quality one require in life.

Learning to unlearn a few things in life is the only way to achieve a good quality.

  • Unlearn to consume junk food and learn to feed the body with good nutritional food!
  • Unlearn the process of  having negative thoughts, and learn to feed the mind & soul with good intentions, required information and positive thoughts!
  • Unlearn to chat and gossip useless information,  and learn to read good books and exchange good authentic information!
  • Unlearn the ways of having a sedentary life, and learn to lead an active life through Yoga, regular exercise and planned workouts!

So my friends, ‘Quality of life’ is not something procured, it should be generated from one’s inner self…. 🙂

Do you agree?







Visiting patients – Ethics

Visiting a patient is not for marking attendance but to wish for their speedy recovery !

Sometimes I feel visiting patients at hospital has become a JAC..Just a ceremony. With the stamp of ‘dears & nears’ people try visiting an ailing or recovering patients. They see to that that they visited the patient and mark their attendance for name sake. Why this fake mask? I always feel.

Some ethics needs to be followed while visiting an ailing patient. First rule of thumb is a crowd should never be made. Related people should talk to each other in this whatsapp age and plan their visit. Like a bunch of lemons, everyone should not assemble and roll over on the patient. Never try to use this opportunity as a family get together event.


It has become a pattern that if one hears about someone is ill, it is very much needed to immediately call on them and show their concern. Actually its not necessary in this skype , whatsapp or internet age. Its a curt to call on the patient’s attender rather than calling the patient itself. No one follows this rule. They call the patient directly and hit on them, and drag the call by saying ‘you should not be talking and need to take rest’, they suck out all the information starting from hospital expenses to the type of ailment. People wants information. Information is power. Agree. But not in certain specific junctures in life.

A patient once reached home is not allowed with proper rest. In the name of  ‘concern’ people call on them and disturb by keep saying they dont want to disturb at all. If its a sunday , the crowd doubles up since they cannot come on other days. If there is a real concern patient’s attender should they discuss with before coming. Ask about the comfort of the patient and before buying something for the patient, they should be aware of what the patient can take and what not from the attender.

Yes. Visiting a patient is not for marking attendance but to wish for their speedy recovery !

Do you agree?

OMG! I have no clothes !!!

OMG! I have no clothes…a scream which always and constantly heard at homes blessed with teenage to all age girls 🙂

80/20 rule is strictly applied here. 80% of the time we girls wear only 20% of our dresses available in our wardrobe. Do we agree?

My evolution from a teenage girl to a married girl to a mother to a mother in law and to-be grandma, I have felt the same, everytime whenever I open my wardrobe. OMG…I have no clothes!!! and No space for my clothes !!!


Why this feeling?

I have observed 99% of the girls don’t maintain their wardrobes and a waterfalls technique is followed by the wardrobes once it is opened. So the good clothes gets entangled at some corners and never be visible at the right time or appropriate occassions leading to buy a new one. Especiallay t-shirts, thin nylon based dresses and such kind of clothes easily hide somewhere. If we consistently keep them intact, we could find them but when they gets hidden how to find them ???

It could be due to our constant weight changes which leads to OMG! I have no clothes!!! Whenever we buy new clothes, we tend to buy smaller size, by listening to our mind voice, which states, “From tomorrow diet diet and diet…and reduce to this size” . Once home, see a cake and elevate the hip and conveniently forget to drop to the size envisioned at the clothe store …

Or, it could be our mindset and preferences varies season to season and time to time. Oh this color, i dont like to wear this occassion, oh this neck line, not suited for evening..oh this does not have a hip belt..oh the top has lost its color etc.etc… how much of preferences in style and appearance varies from season to season.

A girl’s mind always attracted towards a cloth shop and end up in buying a new one which is inevitable and happens….

So OMG! I have no clothes!!! will be a constant scream and would never end in a girl’s life…

Unless……… an idea pops up in my mind….

All cloth stores should sell ‘use and throw’ dresses in different, trendy, colourful patterns and styles. Girls will buy, use for an occassion and throw it into the bin and no need for maintaining a costlier wardrobe too. So much of money is spent on marriage reception dresses and other events which a girl does not even touch those for another time. So why worry if there is a ‘Use and throw’ shop 🙂

Envisioning an ‘use and throw’ shop sooner or later displayed with trendy clothes and can be easily ordered ‘on demand’. Leaves also could be considered …just for a change

What do you say my friends?

Does women volunteer themselves to be equal?

Have you ever thought what kind of activities a woman cannot do in this gadget filled mechanized world? Women has been projected that they can do everything as equal to the opposite sex and they are capable of executing them with a charm. Yes. off course. We can do anything and everything as long as we apply our mind and soul into it, as well show interest in doing. Otherwise, there is a easy way of escapism shown by us stating, we can’t do it and it is ‘men’s job’ 🙂


Recently, I visited one of my friends’ place. They were on move on that day to a different apartment. My friend has one son and a daughter. Both of them are almost of same age. When the movers came, my friend’s son automatically volunteered to move the heavy weight items. Daughter was just watching it by sitting on the sofa and seriously browsing something on her phone.

I asked my friend, is it not stereo typing girls by not asking them to do heavy lifting jobs? My friend said, no..let her enjoy life. Anyways life is going to show her many ups and downs in future. At least let her relax now when she is living with us.

What a parity?

Talking about equality is very much opportunistic I felt. Tell me friends, there are still such ‘Men’s job’ right? 🙂


Power – A solid word to define a woman

Once a wise person asked a group of people gathered in a mall, a most happening place where people run towards everything which gets attracted by their eyes and not by their brains. What is the purpose of this life?

One young person told to drink and enjoy! Another told the purpose is to make money. Another told the purpose is to wear new clothes. In a mall what else one could say?

The wise person told, hello friends the purpose of life is not to dine, wine or to generate money. The purpose is to breathe always, grow yourself, reproduce,  and die. 3 simple things which god has given everyone to do it. Due to technology advancements one could restrict it. But no change in almighty’s wish though.

Reproduce… yes reproduce. We are entitled to reproduce, which any other animal, worm or insect does. We are of no different from them.

In stone age, women were seen only as a reproduction engine and men were supposed to hunt and feed them. Then came all the ages to add extra fittings of life which is quite not needed for a quality life. We are at the technology age which has made everyone to run for money to get these extra fittings to live happily. But are we happy?

Happiness is a relative term, many says. Happiness comes from inside and cannot be bought, so called corporate gurus crows about it. According to me happiness comes from power one holds. Where can one get power?


Power is nothing but energy. It comes from girl children. Girls are not just girls. Bundle of joy, energy and thereby one gets happiness. Inherently they have power to achieve everything and anything they want to. They are stamped as weaker sex only by our fellow humans. When a girl is born it does not says ‘hey I am weaker sex’. The ‘same weaker sex’ is required by men in many stages for a quality life. A girl morph as many form – as a sister, girl friend, a well grown woman, a mother, a mother in law, a grand mother to provide various forms of happiness to the fellow human called man.

This woman power is required at many levels in life for every one. Woman is not a simple word to be uttered and passed through. It has so many meanings to different junctures of life. In this technology age too, many makes sarcasms by saying ‘woman’.  In many households still we see a boy child is given with all the nourishments and the girl child is ignored. But still girl child is the one who is entitled to generate this human kind.

Yes. We need power !!!

Will write more about this power ……